Some years back I read Stephen Covey’s book the “7 principles of highly effective people.”
Chapter one- “Begin with the end in mind” was for me the whole essence of the book. In that chapter, he asked us to imagine being at our own funeral and listening to what people had to say about us. He said that having that in mind will help us act rightly whilst alive and I totally agree with him.
Today l, however, I want to shift our focus from the living to the dead. I believe that there is a spirit world which is very real and exists in the same way and at the same time as this world exists. It is my personal belief that we have the dead all around us, cheering us on, praying for us, people that are interested in us and our well being but cannot interfere in our lives.
They don’t have access to us and neither we them but I want us to imagine that our loved ones had an opportunity to speak to us after their departure and I think if we could hear them, they would say the following:
I am sorry for all the times I hurt you. I see and understand now the pain and misery you felt by my actions and inactions. I truly did love you but was too afraid to let you know.
I am proud of the way you’ve carried on without me, for the care and attention you gave to me before I passed on but was too weak ( physically and emotionally) to acknowledge. For holding fort for me and ours. Thank you.
N.B I wrote this list based on my imagination and relationships and I understand that the conversations may not go the same way for everyone and that’s okay, too. However, I would like us all to hold these conversations in our minds rationally and as objectively as we possibly can as we try to put some closure to our hurts, questions and grief.