A man is calling out his girlfriend for using AI to write a personal speech for a wedding.
The man explained in a Reddit post on the popular “Am I The A——?” subreddit that his girlfriend was asked to officiate her longtime best friend’s wedding over the weekend. He explained that the two had been close since the age of 2, and in the comments noted that she had been asked to create the speech back in February or March.
He said that she read out what she “had for the ceremony,” the night before and he told her that he thought it sounded great, to which she responded “well I had ChatGPT write it.” He then asked her if she had the AI chatbot to write the whole speech, to which she responded, “more or less, yes.”
“I then said that it made me feel kinda weird in my stomach that she would have AI write the ceremony for her longest and dearest best friend,” he recalled.
“I said that to me, it seemed a little disingenuous since they have been best friends their entire life, and she is an amazing writer who could [have written] something of equal or greater caliber to what AI wrote,” he continued, adding that he had expected her to write “something from her heart that reflected what this life event meant to her best friend.”
The Redditor said that once he told his girlfriend this, she “got pretty upset about it,” and said that it seemed like he was “calling her lazy” and “an immoral person.” He said she then “cried a lot” about it and said that his comments made her feel like a “piece of s—.”
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“I apologized a lot and said I didn’t mean for her to feel that way,” he explained in the post. “I said that I felt that it was important in a relationship to voice concerns if we felt weird about something.”
He then posed the question to other Redditors asking if he was in the wrong for calling her out for using ChatGPT for her wedding officiant speech.
Several people agreed with the man, noting that they also felt that it was “disingenuous” to have an AI chatbot write her speech. One person wrote, “If she isn’t willing to put in that effort then they aren’t best friends… You are allowed to call your partner out on stuff you think is wrong and if she doesn’t accept it that’s on her. I mean how would she feel if you had chatGPT write out your wedding vows?”
Another said, “Having a bot help her write the speech? Nothing wrong with that. Having the bot write the entire speech? Ewwww.”
“I, too, would look at someone very differently if I found out they agreed to write a speech for their best friend’s wedding but instead planned to read something generic produced by a glorified phone predictive text generator,” a Redditor chimed in, adding that they believed that ChatGPT was “not a tool but a “ghostwriter.” (People)