My wife’s name is Rose; she is my third wife but unlike my first two wives, Rose is not from my place.
I am from Auchi by the way. So because Rose is not from my place – she is from the east – I knew she would have problems with the other wives because she is a very troublesome woman. That is why I rented an apartment for her when I wanted to marry her. I couldn’t afford to bring her to join the first two wives at my house in Ilasa because it would be one day, one trouble among all the wives. If you have one woman, you have one trouble, two, two troubles, three? That is asking for wahala that will send you to an early grave.
Another reason why I put Rose in a different house is this, though I live in my own house, this woman Rose is the most educated of all my wives; she was a teacher when I met her.
So, in the last 16years, I have been living in two places, my own house with my other wives and their children then with Rose and her two children.
Because I am into transport business, many times, I am not even at home in the two houses. If you have a large family to take care of, you have to work hard so that you can provide for them. Even though all my wives work but still, I have to take care of them and the children. I have 7 children in all.
So, I told you Rose is a troublesome woman abi but you see this new trouble does not have reverse. Water has passed garri.
You know she is a very beautiful woman, so I tried to give her more of my time than the others let another man not come and be plucking maize from the farm I have been working on.
Bit still I kept hearing that Rose has a man-friend, that the man comes to my house every time I am not around. When I confronted her, she said it is the man helping our son to prepare for WAEC that he is a teacher.
I said, I don’t want a male teacher, I want a female teacher, she said she can’t find a female teacher who is good in math and Further-maths. That is why I said, ok, I hope there is nothing between you, two, she said, nothing. I said, ok.
But the real trouble started one day when one man came to meet me, he said that our second child, Rasheed, is his own child that he would one day come and take his child from Rose.
I then began to ask Rose, so Rasheed, who is just 5 years old is not my son? I was shocked but Rose said the man as lying. So, I just stopped going to see her. I said I was going to divorce her because I couldn’t believe that a man would just come and say, ‘Hey, this child is my own child, not yours.’
The second issue which I cannot even forget is that my brother, my own younger brother, Yusuf, has been sleeping with my own wife, whenever I am not around!
Guess what she said when I asked her? She said it is true Yusuf slept with her but only once and that was because she thought I was the one. She said she had gone to bed that night and because I always came to the house late at night to sleep, she thought the man that joined her in the bed was me!
Can you imagine the nonsense?
So, a man enters your bed, removes your clothes and has sex with you and you don’t know he is not your husband? Can you believe it.
I cant even imagine the fact that my own brother who I sometimes tell to go and sleep in Rose’s house has been having sex with her!
This kind of thing is really unbelievable!
How can a woman not know the touch of her own husband on her body even if there is no NEPA? And from my own brother?
That means, it is not even the first time they will be doing it, because my sister, how can this thing happen?
Can’t you tell your husband’s style when he comes to bed with you? That is why I want to divorce her, a woman who has so many men sleeping with her is a dangerous woman.
I tire for you women, o!
(series written and edited by Peju Akande and based on true stories)