Yes, every one is scandalized at what is now the most talked about sex video of all time; and its distasteful because, we are talking about children here.
We all must have read, heard, seen, and given our opinion online or offline on the alarming rape of a 10 or 13 year old Chrisland school girl. You donโt even need to be a parent to sympathise with the families of the children involved in that video; now when you juxtapose it with the video of the mother that started the storm, where she was appealing to Nigerians to help her fight the school that suspended her daughter, you wonder why she didn’t go into a closed door session with the school; hush, hush the matter, and demand to know the real reason her child was suspended indefinitely instead of bringing it to the table of public opinion.
I was among the people who got so agitated that I began to share the motherโs plight, hoping people in positions of authority would wade in and get justice for a woman and her daughter who I honestly believed had been unjustly treated.
Like Chimamanda Adichie said, beware the danger of a single story.
Blame me not, even if I don’t have a 10 year old child, I have nieces, that age, so I believed that single story and and cried foul against the school and the idiot who shared it online.
What could be wrong in a motherโs story that her daughter was only accused of kissing a boy in a truth or dare game and she gets suspended indefinitely? Havenโt we all been kids at some point and had crushes on the opposite sex even at young ages?
What side of a motherโs story about her little girl, can be untrue when suddenly the child is ejected unceremoniously from a prestigious school after an episode that must have left her traumatizedโฆit’s rape o! I was enraged!
Beware the danger of a single story.
There was a video and even if there wasn’t, teachers and school authorities see a lot of the things parents have no ideas about. They see a side of our children we never dream of.
Anyway, I followed the story, I read up every comment people made on WhatsApp, on Instagramโฆeven on Twitterโฆ
Theeennnโฆpeople who had seen the video, even before the Lagos state government forbade sharing of same as a crime; people began to say, โOmo, the girl is not a 10 years oldโฆthe video we saw, the girl was an expert riderโฆ.some were even laughing, saying the girl raped the boys insteadโ
I was angry at such comments, I reminded the “laughing jackassesโ we were talking about a 10/13year child here.
They told me to go watch the video; this was no 10/13year old.
I never got to see it but a few close friends who had described what they wished they could un-see. โFirst, that girl is not 10years oldโฆsecondly, she has done this beforeโฆto which I asked hurriedly, โdone what?โ
โSex, na. She was riding the boyโฆthere were several othersโฆthe way she changed positionโฆshe has done this several timesโฆyou know that style they called cow girl โฆ? She turned and โฆโ
โโฆplease stop!โ
What is clear to me is, the mother never saw the video before she went online to make that plea! Her plea made people aware there was a cover-up, the cover-up intrigued people, which in turn made them seek the video.
What people saw made them turn against the woman they had earlier been sympathizing with.
I turned too.
-The woman fxxked up, they said…
-She for kuku not have said anything, they said
-Her daughter wasnโt raped they saidโฆ
-Her daughter isnโt the 10/13year old she claimed, they reiteratedโฆ
-Her daughter had been having sex before now, multiple times, they insist based on what they saw…
-She is a useless woman, crying over a child she doesn’t even know jack about, they said…
-In other countries, the government would have taken that girl from her because clearly, she is a terrible and negligent mother, they said
-They concluded, the school did right to suspend her indefinitely!
This is double jeopardy.
If what I have in my head, by way of description, is what truly it isโฆit means the mother just exposed herself and her child to something they never expected!
Shame!
Shame so strong it stings.
Mummy wa, why didn’t you watch the video before coming to do your own video?
Although some believed she had seen the video and yet came to cry out in public; I think not. in a way, I wished the school had shown her the video before expelling her daughter…
But if wishes were horses…
Hunmm.
My attention is mostly drawn to the comments and many were plain nasty; everyone seems to be a good parents;
– I did this when I noticed so and so in my child…
-I did that when my childโs school did that and that…
Itโs funny how when something bad happens to you, everyone seems to have an opinion on how they did better than you when they were never in your shoes!
Now I see photos of the mother looking like a slay queen on Instagram, this I think is a way to demonise her. Why dig up old photos of her looking hot and sexy as reason for her child being the way she is? As Black Sherif sings who never fuxxked up, hands in the air.
No hands!
The family as it were is already shamed, no scented soap can wash them as they are right now. The families of the boys involved too are not spared, thankfully, they have kept mum so far. Please, daddies and mummies of the other children, mum’s the word!
Spare your children the shame and shit being spread around because once you come out as a parent, the world will find your children and plaster their faces all over the internet!
Children these days are monsters!
The onus is on parents to run several steps ahead of the people we call our children, because they are light years ahead of us. There have been reports and confirmed, too, of secondary school pupils having sex with with one another in the schools bathrooms, giving each other blow jobs and thinking nothing of it. It happens in almost all secondary schools pan Nigeria, never say, never!
These children play adult games they have no idea what its consequences are; one day they would want to hold responsible positions in life and that darned video will grow wings.
Some day they would aspire to something noble and someone reminds them of how they were the best at bj back in college…let’s let these children know there are consequences to playing adult games.
And when they are caught, deal with the issues but keep the children out of public eye!
Mummies and daddies, mum should be the word!