I am in a dilemma.
I had a sweet relationship with a girl I met three years ago. We were already talking marriage when I decided to test her and what did I find?
My fiancée is a fraud!
I don’t like surprises but I had been planning to marry my girlfriend of three years when one day, I decided to test her fidelity. I wanted to know for sure that she is mine because you see, Rahila is a fine woman.
I have like three Facebook accounts, so this gist is a Facebook related issue. I used one of my accounts that she doesn’t know about to send her a friend request. She didn’t accept at first, until one day, we got talking about the number of Facebook friends we each had and I boasted that I had more friends than her. Shortly after that, she accepted the request I had sent earlier.
That’s how we started o.
As soon as she did, I began to chat with her.
I told her she was a beautiful woman and that her husband should be a happy man. She replied that she was not married. Then I said, oh great, then I stood a chance to win her to myself.
She said I should go ahead and try.
Huh? I thought she should be saying, ‘You will never succeed. I love my boyfriend; we are planning to get married…’ or something. Isn’t that what a girl, who is already living with her boyfriend should be saying?
That was when I decided to really see how far she would go with ‘me.’
In reality, my girlfriend would be furiously chatting with ‘me,’ even while we were both at home and sitting on the same couch.
One day, ‘I’ asked her why she was still with this boyfriend as she seems to be chatting with ‘me’ almost all the time.
She said she was just marking time with her boyfriend as he was a ‘totally unserious human being.’ I felt insulted!
How am I unserious? Here is a girl I was planning to marry.
So I began to spin a story that I was a medical doctor based outside Nigeria and that I was scared of Nigerian girls because they lie a lot. I also told her I was looking for a decent girl to get married to but since she already has a boyfriend, then there was no need wasting her time.
My babe told ‘me’ that she was ready to dump her current boyfriend as she had realized he was an unserious person. She even told ‘me’ the different quarrels we have had in recent past and how these were pointers for her that the relationship was doomed!
I tell you what, I felt betrayed by this girl.
She gave a different version of what happened between us to ‘me.’
At that time, it took a lot for me not to send her packing out of our small flat!
This woman was cheating on me!
There was even a time I asked her if she wouldn’t mind me sending money to her, I told her I have a friend in Nigeria who can help me credit her account. I wanted her to think I was really that interested in her.
Omo, before I finished typing, she had sent her account number
Anyway, over a period of like two months or there about, I engaged my babe in serious chat, asking about the different aspects of our relationships and she was so blatantly honest with ‘me.’ Meanwhile, when I asked her these same things as her boyfriend, she would lie!
I asked her one day if she would rather we ended the relationship and go our separate ways, this girl just busted into tears, crying, begging me not to disgrace her, telling me she loved me, vowing to be a good wife!
What kind of thing is this? And I truly liked this girl but I felt she was already having an affair with this other ‘me.’
Then one day, ‘I’ asked her to send me her nudes. I wanted to see if she had any shame left. Hummn, my girlfriend sent nudes but without her face showing. Me, I know her body well, well. I know the bare breasts, thighs, bum she sent, were hers.
After these, I knew if I asked her to meet me at a hotel, she would find her way there. she would dump me. She would leave me if she had a choice.
Since then, I haven’t decided on what to do. Should I continue to pretend with her or to tell her I know her secrets? And yes, ‘I’ still chat with her but not like before. I think I should just show her ‘our’ chats and tell her we are over, but I really loved her.
(Series written and edited by Peju Akande and based on true stories)
